Freedom to be free 💫

 

“I've read that the Japanese prioritize not passion, not romance, not flowers at parties. But respect for personal space.

There, it's not customary to "enter" into each other's lives, to question each other, to demand total fusion.

We say: "If you love, you must always be there."

They say: "If you love, let the person breathe."

In Japan, there's the concept of "oyakate bukaeru"—it's the silence. When you can sit with someone for an hour without speaking. Not because you're offended and ignore each other. But because you're happy that way.

In our culture (at least in the past), silence was a sign of a problem. In their philosophy, it was a sign of depth.

And yes, I agree: stability isn't in words, but in the fact that you don't need to always be interesting to avoid being abandoned.

In Japanese couples, there's no urge to "always be together." It's much more normal than sleeping in separate rooms. Separate holidays are not cheating. Different interests are not the end.

There, the essential thing is not to prevent the other from being themselves.

In our country, this would most likely be called distancing.

For them, happiness is not a function of the other, but the result of the inner peace you bring to the couple.

According to statistics, they have fewer divorces. Fewer tantrums. Less exhaustion.

Perhaps because relationships are built not on consumption, but on respect.

On care without fuss...”

Thanks to Tatiana Matveeva for the above 🙏